A Few Ways To Enhance Your Pleasure

September is Pleasure your Mate Month, a time to focus on shared pleasure and check in with your partner on ways to keep your encounters pleasurable. We’re all about pleasure at Secret Pleasures Boutique and are here to help you enhance or add pleasurable encounters this month.

I want to start off by saying our first recommendation is communication. Open communication is key to building and expanding pleasure. Take some time out this month to re-evaluate your sexual and/or romantic interests, whether it be by yourself or with others. Think about what you’re open to, willing to try, or fantasize about and talk about them if they involve someone else. If it helps, we offer Yes, No, Maybe checklists and worksheets in-store to help initiate and facilitate these types of discussions.

Our staff of sex educators are open to discuss questions or concerns about sexuality and pleasure that you may have in reference to yourself or partner(s). We also offer in-shop workshops that can provide some inspiration; more on those later.

Along with being a resource for sex education, we are knowledgeable about the products we carry in order to assist each individual in finding what may amplify their pleasure. Below we’ll list a few products that may aid you on your journey to enhancing or diversifying pleasure.

The newest hands-free vibe, Eva was made with couples in mind. The Eva’s flexible arms hold it beneath the outer labia and allow vibrations to snuggle up against the clitoris all while keeping the vaginal opening completely unobstructed in case of penetrative

On the converse of hands-free, we have a vibrator that allows hands to be the focus; Jimmyjane’s Hello Touch is a vibrator that attaches to your or your lover’s hand to send vibrations anywhere hands travel on the body, all the while allowing the hands to tickle, pinch, or hold.

On the subject of touch, sensual massage can be an excellent way to pleasure your mate. Try an oil or massage candle that can be lit for soothing ambiance and melts down into a body-safe heated massage oil. While massaging, take your time to focus on multiple parts of your partner’s body; the goal is to build pleasure gradually and demonstrate your commitment to their pleasure.

If you’re looking for a unique way to share penetration with someone, the aptly named Sharevibe is Fun Factory’s take on a double-ended dildo. The less-phallic shaped toy is smooth and moderately-sized and features a rechargeable bullet.

And although double-ended dildos like the Sharevibe are meant to be used au naturel, a harness like the Spareparts Joque can provide a little more stability. Less fuss and more comfort gives you time to focus on pleasure.

And oh P-Spot, we haven’t forgotten about you. Seriously, there’s a reason it’s called the P-Spot and it’s not just because the P is short for prostate… It’s also apparently short for Pleasure because this erogenous zone is a pleasure powerhouse for folks who have them. For some, firm pressure on the prostate can create pleasure like no other. Toys like Njoy’s Pfun plug are engineered with this in mind and perform their function well, if I do say so myself.

In talking about pleasure superstars, there’s no way we could leave out the Magic Wand! With its supremely unmatched intense vibrations, the Magic Wand is a good choice for anyone who prefers strong external vibration. We carry both the traditional, plug-in version and the rechargeable version of the wand. Check out one of our staff reviews of the rechargeable magic wand.

Finally, quality time. Take time out to fully enjoy the company of your partner(s) and perhaps join us at one of our workshops this month. Specifically, Thriving Together: The Five Secrets to Creating and Sustaining Enduring Love will discuss communication, conflict, desire, friendship, playfulness, and how to set the foundation that allows you to build (or rediscover) your adventure together. Check out our other workshop offerings here and have a happy Pleasure Your Mate Month!