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Ask A Sex Educator: Coconut Oil and Anal Sex

Posted by Secret Pleasures Boutique on 7/22/2019 to Ask A Sex Educator



Question: Is coconut oil a good lube for anal?


Lots of people are attracted to coconut oil as a lubricant for sex because it’s natural, long-lasting and some people enjoy the smell. Coconut oil has it’s pros and cons for sex depending on how you’re using it and there are other options for lubricants that bring slippery joy to anal sex!


The anus isn’t self-lubricating, so it welcomes lube to help reduce friction and make penetration smoother and less painful during anal. Remember, we never want to have pain-al, anal sex never has to include pain if we communicate, listen to our bodies and lube it up!


Oil-based Lubes Can Break Down Latex

Any oil-based lubricant, including coconut oil, isn’t compatible with latex barriers such as condoms or dental dams. If you’re using condoms or dental dams during anal sex to protect against sexually transmitted infections, coconut oil isn’t a great idea because it compromises the efficacy of the latex barrier and reduces its ability to protect. If you’re not using latex barriers, make sure you use coconut oil that is 100% virgin coconut oil and doesn’t have any other additives in it. If you’re buying coconut oil from a grocery store, you might find that it’s a solid that turns to liquid with heat from bodies or in a warmer room temperature. You can also find liquified coconut oil, often used as a great massage oil. 


Scent, Stains and Safety

Lots of people love the taste and scent of coconut oils and other people don’t. If the person receiving anal penetration has a vulva, you’ll want to be careful about cross-contamination of coconut oil on fingers, toys and penises. While the general rule about the butt is keep butt stuff in the butt for hygiene, coconut oil adds another layer of concern. Both bacteria from the butt and the anti-fungal and anti-bacterial properties of coconut oil, can be disruptive to the vaginal ecosystem. Your sheets and lingerie are also at risk, as oil-based stains can be tough to get out. 


If you’re using solid coconut oil, before things get messy, it’s a good idea to scoop out some coconut oil each into a separate container that you’ll be using for playtime. It’ll be hard to keep track of hands and fingers dipping and possibly mixing butt and body bacteria into the source jar. 


Pros and Cons

Pros: If you’re not using latex barriers, it’s great for external massage of the butt crack, butt cheeks and the outside of the anus. It can also be useful for anal lubrication inside the anus to prepare for penetration. Oil-based lubricants can also be used safely on most sex toys, whereas, silicone toys are incompatible with silicone lube. 


Cons: Can create unwanted stains, scent, possibility of cross-contamination to source and to vulvas, and isn’t friendly to condoms and dental dams. It can be tough to re-apply during penetration if you’re using a solid-to-liquid coconut oil.


Alternative Anal Lubes

When you’re choosing a lube for anal, one of the biggest features to keep in mind is the lasting power of the lube. Water-based lubes tend to be absorbed quicker into the body, while silicone-based lubes aren’t as easily absorbed and have a longer staying power. Hybrid lubes that contain both water and silicone are also great if you don’t like a full silicone lube. 


Here are some body safe favourite lubes to checkout:


Water-based

Silicone

Hybrids

Cream or oil based



Pro-tip: keep re-applying lube, not just as the beginning of anal play, but throughout - and be generous to that butt to keep it pleasureable for everyone. 




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