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Ask A Sex Educator: Penis Size

Posted by Secret Pleasures Boutique on 3/12/2019 to Ask A Sex Educator

Dear Sex Educator,

I have a very small penis and is very self conscious about it.  How can I become comfortable with approaching women without thinking they will turn me down due to my penis size?

Worrying about our sexual performance and the desirability of our bodies can steal from our sexual confidence. Being comfortable in the skin you’re in is one of the ways to feel more sexually confident and competent - to feel good at sex.

Ask A Sex Educator: Strap-On Sex

Posted by Secret Pleasures Boutique on 2/21/2019 to Ask A Sex Educator

Hi Strap-on Curious,

That’s exciting you want to try strap-on sex with your boyfriend! Everyone has an anus, so any body has the potential to get pleasure from strap-on sex, if they desire to. Exploring a desire with a partner can sometimes be intimidating, we can wonder how they will react, what will they think of us and if it will change how they perceive us. So how do we approach this gently and curiously?

Ask A Sex Educator: Dildo or Vibrator

Posted by Secret Pleasures Boutique on 1/14/2019 to Ask A Sex Educator

Ask A Sex Educator: Threesome

Posted by Secret Pleasures Boutique on 11/13/2018 to Ask A Sex Educator

Q: “My boyfriend and I are interested in having a threesome but we have no idea how to approach a person for that. We have fears of STDs and I don’t feel comfortable asking a friend. We need tips on how to ask a person. “

Ask a Sex Educator: First Time Anal

Posted by SP Staff on 7/2/2018 to Ask A Sex Educator

Q: I want to try anal but never have before. What should I do/try the first time to avoid pain?

A: Anal penetration can be a thrilling and pleasurable activity alone or with partner(s). But getting started can be daunting because of the idea that anal sex hurts – and it can if not done properly. Yet with a little know how and some good lube, you’ll be well on your way to a pain free and (hopefully) fun experience.

Before getting down to what you need for a positive experience, I do want to note that while some folks love anal penetration, others try it and decide it’s not for them. Both are totally ok!

So if you try these suggestions and you just aren’t feeling it, there isn’t anything wrong with you – your body may not enjoy this kind of stimulation and you can continue to explore other types of play.