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How to Initiate Sex in a Sexy Way

Sometimes we get used to one person in our relationship being the initiator and the other person being the receiver. It can be really fun to spice things up by switching up who initiates and who receives. The first few times you decide to try intiaiting you might feel awkward or nervous or worry about rejection. It’s ok to feel nervous, to worry about rejection or to feel awkward. Trying something new sometimes comes with these feelings. You can try to navigate them by being honest about them with your partner, by exploring what’s underneath the anxiety for you (e.g. is it fear you’re not attractive?) and by using an affirmation to keep you in the present moment as you explore sexy intiation.

I want to try a penis ring while my boyfriend is open to it, he does not get why anyone would want to use one. How do we go about choosing one that is not intimidating but fun?

Great question! Cock rings can be used by anyone with a penis. Some penis rings are made of materials that create a fixed size, like stainless steel or wood, and many cock rings are made with materials that allow for adjusting size, like leather, rubber and silicone.

We know how stressful planning and shopping for V- Day can be, with no shortage of expectations for flawless expressions of love and romance. We also know how good it can feel to be catered to (by a lover or oneself) on a special day. Rather than focusing solely on the gift-giving and receiving practices, the day also gives us the opportunity to re-envision or grow in love.

Short on ideas? Check out our (updated) list below for a collection of naughty, erotic, and sensual Valentine’s ideas and products to make this Valentine’s day exciting. We’ll include options perfect for any orientation or relationship status. So without further ado, here are some of our suggestions for making this year’s day of love an exciting one.